A million dollar smile

I woke up at 6.30 in the morning, went for my usual walking spree in the garden near to my house. Everything was usual as every morning. Winds blowing by, people jogging and exercising. I took two rounds of the garden. When I was on my third round I saw an old man walking ahead of me. He almost looked like Gandhi Ji to me, same attire and same body structure. I was amazed. I noticed him for a while and then continued with my walking. After a while, when I was about to leave that garden, suddenly I saw the same old man coming towards me. He just smiled and said Namaste beta. I was dumbstruck, not only because I didn’t know him but by the charm and warmth of his smile. I don’t know why he greeted me; maybe he confused me with someone else. I too greeted him back. Whatever it was, it just made my day. I realized at that moment what a smile can do to another person. If a stranger’s smile can make me feel good, then why can’t we just smile all day and give others the privilege to enjoy their day. Yes, it’s not so hard to smile back at a person. It won’t make a huge difference to their lives. But definitely it will make them feel nice for a moment. Smiles are contagious. Try smiling a little more and you will see the world smiling with you.

MUST WATCH..The most inspirational video of the century

This is one of my favorite videos. Nothing can be more inspiring for us. I salute the way Nick Vujicic is leading his life. He is one of the special kind actually. A gifted soul with a spirited heart. His life teaches us that we should respect the life given to us and happily accept what we have. This is a must watch as it might change the way you look at life. 

Change

This is a word that is most commonly experienced by every individual here. Be it our situations, people, places, thoughts, preferences anything. No doubt, changes are inevitable. But, it’s human nature to crib about each and every change we experience. Why is it so difficult to overcome such a phase of enormous change? And many times we already know that this stage will arrive one day, when we’ll have to move on from here too. Still we are unable to accept this change gracefully. We are tucked in the same comfort level. May be it’s our attachment that doesn’t allow us to accept. Take for example a change of place. We get so attached to that one place that every time we move, it hurts us. It’s my personal experience, when I was going to hostel after school I cried my ‘whole body out’ not only heart :P because I didn’t want to leave my home, my city. I just knew, I was best where I was and hated the change I had to face. After a few days in college hostel, I realized it was the best thing that could happen to me. And I still remember it took me months to overcome the change, when I had to come back from hostel to my home place. This is the simplest example of a change we experience in everyday life. It is human nature to get attached to a particular phase of life, which makes it difficult to move on. The only thing I have learned from my experiences is that changes are for our own evolvement. If we don’t change, we’ll never grow. There will be no spice left in our lives. Nothing new will be waiting for us. Can you now imagine a life without change? These changes make us believe that we have a challenge to face. And gives us the courage to stand up and show life that yes we can survive; no matter what comes next. Although, during these times life sometimes offers such conditions which often change us, as the person on the whole. These are the times when we are tested. Try and enhance yourself with the changing conditions, instead of destroying your true worth. These trying times shall also pass. Don’t worry. Remember everything that happens has a strong reason behind it. Every experience if good one will bring color to our lives, if bad will teach us something .With this thought in mind, have faith. And try to accept changes positively. 

Expectations

Are expectations good or bad? Even I am confused about this issue. Let us all help each other in finding the answer. We have always heard that excess of everything is bad. According to me, this statement doesn’t always hold true. Working harder and harder yields better results, having a large group of friends is always good and loving your parents to an impossible extent can never be wrong. But having a lot of expectations from another person, be it your family, friends, lover, Isn’t it wrong? Aren’t you doing wrong to him and yourself both? It is true that when you are close to a person, you automatically start expecting. That’s a part of your affection for that person. Even our mother earth requires balance of nature. Science revolves around this fact only that everything should be balanced. And so should be our lives. We need to control our expectations from others not only because it will burden them but they will cause more harm to us than them. If not fulfilled they just leave us with an enormous amount of negativity which just drains out everything good left in us. Expect only that much, which you think is in other person’s comfort level and doesn’t burden him/her. So don’t kill yourself by expecting way too much instead kill your expectations a bit. Don’t work in binary over here, either 0 or 1 ;) work in continuous domain i.e. between 0 and 1.

Running in the race to fit in

You, me and every person around is running everyday just to fit in. Can anyone tell me, fit in where? Do we really know in which direction are we heading? What are we running for? No, we don’t have answers to these questions, all of us are just following each other and no one knows, we’re simply caught in a vicious loop. We try every day to change ourselves just to fit in. The change should not be such that it destroys our personality and makes us the person, we always hated. And this is the major cause of unhappiness people are going through now days. Fit into those environments which enhance your personality and evolves you as your true self. Remember, it’s not about fitting in but standing out. When you are your true self, you are the happiest. Everything just gets down to this simple word ‘HAPPINESS’ , which is the sole reason we were brought down to earth.  And believe me when you are happy you’ll fit in everywhere you want to without compromising yourself.

Fighting loneliness

LONELINESS!!!  All of us feel lonely at many points of time in our lives, may be because we are out of work, it is a holiday or family is out of town for a few days etc. Sometimes, our beloved left us or we left our beloved ;). Now the question arises, what to do when we are alone? Enjoy!!!! Yes, that’s it. Start enjoying your loneliness. I know it sounds very stupid. You must be thinking  KYA BAKWAS KAR RAHI HAI YE, blog likh rahi hai to matlab kuch bhi likhegi kya  :P No, I am serious. I have seen people, including my friends who are loners and they enjoy their  loneliness to the core instead of cribbing about it the whole time. They are perfect loners when alone and perfect entertainers , when around people. It is not that difficult, believe me. You just need to realize one thing when you are alone, that there were so many things you wanted to do when you were around people and you couldn’t do. Sometimes due to their nagging or you didn’t want to hurt them. This is the time you can do whatever you want. You just have to feel good and positive. Feel like you are some king or a queen. Believe me it helps, this feeling that you are your own master. Listen to music, go for a long drive, go visit some temple, read something  , play a prank on someone, start writing , watch movies, study, any damn thing on this planet you always wanted to do without any burden or tensions. The moment  you’ll  start loving what you are doing ,you’ll forget that you are alone. You are with your passion now, with your love. You are doing what you love the most and that’s the biggest achievement of our life, to do what we want to.

LOL advice : And if everything else fails, go to a nice restaurant and eat your stomach full. That’s the best solution when nothing else works :P