Fighting loneliness
LONELINESS!!! All of us feel lonely at many points of time in our lives, may be because we are out of work, it is a holiday or family is out of town for a few days etc. Sometimes, our beloved left us or we left our beloved ;). Now the question arises, what to do when we are alone? Enjoy!!!! Yes, that’s it. Start enjoying your loneliness. I know it sounds very stupid. You must be thinking KYA BAKWAS KAR RAHI HAI YE, blog likh rahi hai to matlab kuch bhi likhegi kya :P No, I am serious. I have seen people, including my friends who are loners and they enjoy their loneliness to the core instead of cribbing about it the whole time. They are perfect loners when alone and perfect entertainers , when around people. It is not that difficult, believe me. You just need to realize one thing when you are alone, that there were so many things you wanted to do when you were around people and you couldn’t do. Sometimes due to their nagging or you didn’t want to hurt them. This is the time you can do whatever you want. You just have to feel good and positive. Feel like you are some king or a queen. Believe me it helps, this feeling that you are your own master. Listen to music, go for a long drive, go visit some temple, read something , play a prank on someone, start writing , watch movies, study, any damn thing on this planet you always wanted to do without any burden or tensions. The moment you’ll start loving what you are doing ,you’ll forget that you are alone. You are with your passion now, with your love. You are doing what you love the most and that’s the biggest achievement of our life, to do what we want to.
LOL advice : And if everything else fails, go to a nice restaurant and eat your stomach full. That’s the best solution when nothing else works :P
but how do we feel positive and good when we are feeling lonely? identifying a passion is not easy! i wont just bump into my passion one day and say bingo! this was what i was waiting for!
ReplyDeleteFighting loneliness doesn’t mean finding your passion, but realizing that you don’t need someone to be happy. You just need to do something that you love. By passion, I don’t mean when you are alone somewhere, feeling low you will suddenly get up and say hey I’ll become a cricketer tomorrow. No, I just wanted to convey that there’s a lot to do in life and we can achieve that simply by realizing our own worth. By simply being happy and doing something which we love .Yes , it might take you some time to get to know what you love doing, but realization is the first step towards it.
Deletei hv done almost all d things mentioned above 2 overcome my loneliness... wat i personally feel is all dese things r vrrry good bt 4 a period of time...u cant do all such stuff everyday n evrytime...well dis is my personal xperience after doin all d things when i look back i ask ques 2 myself "is it worth?? ya phr maine loneliness dur karne k liye time paas kara hai???"
ReplyDeleteIf you are lonely because someone hurt you in the past, then these things might not work according to me. It means you really need to juggle up the courage to make friends (or lovers) again and find hope. If you have suddenly started feeling lonely and do not know the reason then finding out the reason behind it is a must. Once we know the problem, only then we can find a solution.
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Deletehurting someone or getting hurt is natural, somehow inevitable.. but it is important that we learn to understand or rather trust the intentions of the friend ( lover). rarely is someone a sadist, who loves inflicting pain on his dear ones. till we realise this, we cannot build successful relationships even in the future..
Talking about your loneliness, it is because someone has hurt you then?
DeleteYes,you are correct but only partly.What I meant was that you are finally aware of the fact that you are now alone.And in no position to find that company again.If this is the case then you'll have to find some way out and try to move on.And that way my dear friend is by involving yourself in something which gives you happiness. And do it till the time you know,you are ready to open up again to the world of opportunities,be it personal or professional. And if you still believe that you can get that person back in your life,try hard to get him/her back,if that's the only thing that gives you happiness.And if that's impossible.Move on with your life. The void always get's filled.
DeleteYes, very true. We were just talking about loneliness when someone is away or you are alone for a certain period of time. These things help you to believe that you can still be fine, when you are all by yourself. And help you to believe that the void that came when someone left will be filled soon. You just have to trust yourself that you are still happy. And that happy state will bring you such positivity that you will be much more open to the world outside. And finally find a way out of your loneliness.
ReplyDeleteTo apt reasons given by Shikha, I would just add that try and find little things that are more meaningful than heavy stuff which are meaningless... Think less, be swift, find your worth and fact that being yourself is the best thing in the world, realize it... Natural adaptation to happiness will come :)
ReplyDeleteBeautiful response.Simply what I wanted to convey. Thanks suresh :) wish you a happy and cheerful life.
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